BDSM | Purging
I’ve seen many submissives like you feel the urge to purge their BDSM collections — your toys, gear, outfits, and more. Each time, the story is the same: in a moment of doubt, stress, or a desire for a fresh start, you discard items that mean a lot to you. The aftermath is always the same — regret and longing for what was lost.
You form deep emotional connections with your BDSM collection. These items symbolize your personal growth, cherished memories, and the bonds you’ve built with your partners. They are not just objects; they are part of your journey and achievements. When you purge these items, you don’t just lose material things — you erase important pieces of your history and identity.
Think about the cost. Your BDSM collection, from custom outfits to high-quality toys, represents a significant financial investment. If you purge these items, you lose a lot of money and will eventually have to buy similar items again. This cycle of loss and repurchase drains your finances and wears you out emotionally.
Your BDSM collection is also crucial for expressing yourself and your identity. Your gear is a way to visually and physically show your kink, your submission, and your unique sexual identity. Purging these items feels like denying or erasing an essential part of who you are. You must honor and keep all aspects of your identity, including those expressed through BDSM.
I’ve talked to many submissives who purged their collections and deeply regretted it. They often long for the items they discarded, trying to reclaim pieces of their identity they threw away. This regret shows how important it is to hold onto what matters, even when you doubt or need a change.
The BDSM community gives you strength and support. Keeping your collection helps you stay connected to this community, drawing on its shared wisdom and camaraderie. It gives you a sense of belonging that is crucial for your personal growth and emotional well-being.
A varied collection allows you to keep exploring and being flexible within your kink practices. It keeps the door open for new experiences and discoveries. Purging limits these opportunities, creating unnecessary barriers to your personal and sexual exploration.
Instead of purging, organize and store your collection safely. Even if you need a break from BDSM activities, keeping your gear accessible for when you’re ready to return saves you from future regret and the hassle of starting over.
So, to those of you considering purging your BDSM collections: think hard about the emotional, financial, and personal consequences. Hold onto what represents your journey and your identity. The path of BDSM is one of continuous growth and exploration — keep your gear close, for it is a testament to who you are and who you can become.
