BDSM | Degradation
Many relationships between Dommes and submissives are healthy, happy, and long-lasting. When done right, degradation can help strengthen D/s relationships. Degrading the submissive is something I enjoy doing on occasion. I set rules to ensure a satisfying experience for me and my submissives.
Humiliation is about embarrassing the submissive. It doesn’t always involve degradation. For example, making fun of submissives in front of other people. I can have them wear nothing but a sock on their cocks to make fun of them.
Degradation is when I dehumanize submissives by treating them as less than human. I relegate them to an object-like or animal-like existence. Verbal abuse, like shouting insults at them, is a form of degradation. That may sound too extreme for most people, which is why limits must be set. I don’t go beyond my submissives’ limits. I do my best to get them to tell me their limits.
I don’t degrade all submissives. I need to know what my submissives want first to help me determine how I should interact with them in the future. I prefer dominating a submissive in a way that we both enjoy. It’s easier for me when I know them well because I know their limits and triggers. It allows me to tailor the degradation to them and make it more personal.
Examples of Verbal Degradation
1. Bitch
2. Slut
3. Whore
4. Slave
5. Pig
There’s a fine line between consensual play and consensual non-consent. I’ve met some submissives who thought they didn’t have limits and they could consent to everything. Later on, they realize they do have limits. Some submissives are unsure how to say their safe word for fear of disappointing me. I check in on them from time to time. A simple “How are you?” goes a long way. I gauge their feelings without breaking the fantasy of consensual non-consent.
Examples of Messy Degradation
1. Biting
2. Spitting
3. Peeing
4. Scratching
5. Hair pulling
I’m very critical when I degrade submissives. I understand how my actions can have negative consequences for them. I encourage exploration of different D/s dynamics, but I always make sure it’s within our comfort zone. It’s always better to be safe than sorry.
